Content of the article: "My wife has asked me to DM a game and she deserves to be happy. Problem is, I am not very smart. DM advice?"
I don't want this to sound like a r/reationship post, but I want to give you all a little background. A little understanding as to why this is so important to me and why I can't not DM a game, despite all my shortcomings.
My wife and I have been together for 16 years, since we were both about 15. She is the single most important thing in my life. Because of Covid, our usual DnD game has been suspended for the foreseeable future. We haven't had a game since February and it is breaking my wife's heart. She works so hard every day in an incredibly stressful job and spends her nights listening to DnD liveplay podcasts. She talks about how badly she wishes she could play again.
Recently, she asked me if I would be willing to DM a game with a small number of our closest friends (who will play remotely). I was sure she was joking. She kept asking and I realized she was serious. I realized that in 16 years, this is the second biggest thing she as ever asked me to do. The first being when she asked ME to marry her. My wife, sweet, smart, and endlessly compassionate, doesn't ask me for anything, ever. This must be important to her.
I agreed. I agreed because I lost my job due to the pandemic and I can, will, and want to do this for her. She deserves to be happy and I want to take as much of the burden of the real world off of her shoulders as I can. Especially because I am not contributing as much as I was when I had a job.
The problem is: I am not a smart person. I am not quick or very clever. That joke, "DnD is all math and improv!" — I put two math teachers into retirement (not kidding). I made my high school drama teacher cry laughing — in a very bad way. But my wife, being the amazing person she is, thinks I can do anything. I know better and I am not confident I can run an interesting/fun game. If it matters, I am also dyslexic and it can be embarrassing to talk at length. It fusses with my language center of my head and that doesn't mesh well with a fantasy setting with fantasy names.
I am reading the core books cover-to-cover and am actively researching how to DM. I am devoting a few hours a day to studying online resources. I have audiobooks to listen to while I am doing my chores. I want to do well. I have a little experience with DnD especially and two years with a paper RPG. That, I am discovering, is woefully little enough to take on the task of being a DM.
I feel good about storytelling and NPC creation. I am trying to bring in interesting elements of science and philosophy I know my players would find interesting. I like creative writing and actively enjoy worldbuilding.
I feel terrified of keeping rules in my head, the math involved, and managing a game with three players who will derail any plans I make. I am not quick on my feet.
I apologize. This got long.
tl;dr: dumbass needs help DMing to prove love and commitment to an amazing woman.
Any thoughts? Ideas? Maybe a little reassurances or hard truths?
Thank you so much for reading.
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